At the camp I’m working at this summer, there’s a saying “don’t yuk my yum”, which basically means “if you don’t like what I’m into, that’s cool… but there’s no need to be a dick about it”.
So why is it that when we meet people we want to have like us, we go out of our way to change key factors about ourselves in order to please them?
Oh, you don’t like that I lift weights? I won’t do that anymore.
Oh, you don’t like that I sing? I’ll stop doing that.
Oh, you don’t like that I eat clean? Where’s the Big Mac at?
Fuck that. I’m a huge believer that if someone isn’t contributing positively to your (hopefully already pretty positive) life, they shouldn’t be in your life, yet we continually put ourselves in positions of changing ourselves to appease other people. Women paint our faces to give the impression of perfection; men wear their most metro or masculine outfit to give off the image that they are caring and/or protective. And it’s not to say that all people are like this… I often like to wear makeup, just because… well, I like to wear makeup. But as a society, we’re almost expected to bend over backwards for eachother to try and attract people that we probably don’t have much in common with, but we want to impress anyway because society dictates that’s what we’re meant to do.
So we can get married, procreate, and live in a perfect house with a white picket fence and a puppy.
Where is this coming from? Lastnight, a couple of my girlfriends and I went out for a night at Gypsy Joynt in Great Barrington. (Awesome bar, and the manager there plays in a rad band called Jordan Weller and the Feathers – check them out). I love people watching almost as much as I love dancing my ass off to the beat of my own drum. Which is exactly what we did.
And while not everyone feels the same about letting loose, going crazy and being a little bit reckless, I couldn’t help but notice the number of people who would start to move then get self conscious when their friends pull them up on it. Or the poses as soon as they notice someone they deem attractive. Or the “pull yourself together” look when it comes to portraying a certain type of character.
If someone can’t deal with my dancing / bad jokes / loud singing, why should I pretend those aren’t key parts of who I am, and change myself to try and get their attention? Why should I “simmer down” because I don’t want my eccentricities to be intimidating? I like who I am, and I don’t want to change those things about me… they’re PART of me!
So don’t yuk my yum, society. Cos I’m all about the delicious. 😉