I’ve (technically) been a recording artist for over 15 years. I recorded my first song at the age of 10 on a Waikato and Bay of Plenty compilation album in New Zealand, and have been writing prolifically ever since.
I’ve written pop songs, R’n’B, soul, acoustic pop, ballads and rock songs (of course).
And I love it – I love the opportunity to connect with people through lyrics – provide an opportunity for people to connect with each other through melodies and tell the stories of people each and every time I open my mouth.
But one thing that never ceases to amaze me is – STILL – at the end of 2015 – how sexist the industry is. The number of men in high profile positions who offer their support and help; in return for sex or some other inappropriately gross favour. It guts me – and not just because it puts women like me in strange and uncomfortable situations, degrading our own self belief in our abilities, but because it highlights how little respect men seem to have in themselves. Why is it that a dude has to use their “authority” in order to get their rocks off? Do these particular people doubt their own self worth so much that they feel they can’t get laid by simply being themselves? By being decent human beings? You know… by showing respect? It just paints a bad image for so many other men who could be the sweetest people ever – but because many women have spent their lives being objectified and told that they’re not good enough to “make it” unless they give up the goods, these men get tarnished with the same brush.
It’s a vicious cycle.
We need to undo this mentality. Sure, have sex if you want to have sex; but for goodness sakes’ can we please push aside the manipulation, abuse and downright rudeness?