Recently, I received an email from a high school student in St Louis, Missouri, who had some insightful questions for me as part of their "research project on How Music Affects Teens' Mental Health".
Which kind of got me in the feelings.
I mean, music and songwriting has always given me effective tools to not just sit in my muck, but also express myself in a way that didn't feel threatening, scary, or overwhelming and [more importantly IMO]: figure out ways to navigate my way out of my disempowering mindset, and shift my thoughts to a healthier and more powerful perspective. But I get it: I'm a singer-songwriter. That's just what TF I do... so for a long time: when I tried to describe what I do to others: it felt weird.
Parents often ask me why it's an effective tool for their teenagers - especially if they are already in therapy. Teachers ask why creative expression can help their students learn. Adults without kids say "I wish I had that opportunity when I was a teenager, but Gen Z is already busy enough, aren't they?".
But rarely have I had a teenager come to me directly and say "hey, I like what you're doing. I think it's important. And I would like to know more - not just for myself, but for others in my school/community/city."
So... of course I had to answer her email.
Her questions touched on some of the most common challenges facing Generation Z, and how music can play a powerful role in supporting their mental health and personal growth. Here’s a recap of that conversation, highlighting what this particular student claims today’s Gen Z teens want to know about my approach to empowerment coaching through music and songwriting:
1. How Do You Incorporate Your Music Skills with Helping Teens’ Mental Health?
Music can be a powerful tool for self-expression, especially for Gen Z teens who often struggle to communicate their emotions clearly. Growing up in an era defined by technology and social media, young people today face pressures that previous generations might not have encountered in the same way. I've always used songwriting and singing to help me express myself, and when I got into youthwork with YMCA New Zealand [in my early - mid 20's] I realized teens were desperate to find healthy and effective express themselves, release stress, and build self-awareness. Trouble was: back then, I was still learning a lot about youth development work, and [if I'm being honest] was still rather caught up in my own ego. Music was my thing. Sure, I taught vocals, but teaching songwriting? I just hadn't clicked yet that that was where my superpowers lie.
Cut to 2024: and I've spent the last four years leaning into using songiwrting and singing [utilizing somatic practices associated with vocal performance] as tools that are particularly useful for young adults who are navigating mental health issues like anxiety, depression, and stress.
When I work with teens, I encourage them to write songs about their experiences, worldview and thoughts. Each song doesn’t have to be perfect; the goal is to help them articulate their feelings in a safe, creative way. This process allows them to explore their emotions, gain clarity, and ultimately build confidence and resilience. Sharing their songs, whether with peers or just for themselves, reinforces the idea that their voices matter and that their stories are important.
Because they are.
How else are we expected to raise a generation who can make a difference and be leaders if we don't water that garden now?
2. Can You Share a Time When You Realized Music Was Your Destresser?
Absolutely. I’ve been writing songs since I was five [seriously. On my fifth birthday, I wrote a song called "School is Cool" - I was so excited to start elementary!], and by the time I was 12: I'd written over 200 songs... but I truly realized how powerful music could be as a destresser when I was 15. At that time, I was facing some significant challenges and changes in my life. If you're new to me: I talk about it in my first TEDx Talk, but by the time I was 12: I'd already had ten brain surgeries - and 24 operations in total. By the time, I was about to turn fifteen, however: I was shipped out to lived with my father in Fiji [I was raised in New Zealand], and on my fifteenth birthday, my uncle took it upon himself to teach me what it meant to be a woman.
It was horrific.
Confusing, angering and, of course, I was blamed for it which left me feeling isolated and overwhelmed. For days, I poured myself into drawing [quite often: pictures of a woman locked in a cage], listening to my favorite music [Eminem's "The Eminem Show" had not long before dropped, and I played it on repeat in between Morcheeba, Rob D, Enigma, Avril Lavigne, Pink, and Alanis Morrissette]. But one afternoon: I found myself alone with my guitar, and I began strumming and writing a song. It wasn’t something I planned; it just poured out of me.
Barbed Wire.
That moment was a turning point. It showed me that music could be a safe space to process my feelings and release stress. From then on, whenever I felt anxious, stressed, or overwhelmed, I would turn to songwriting. It allowed me to express my emotions without fear of judgment, helping me navigate my mental health challenges. Looking back, this experience is why I’m so passionate about sharing the healing power of music with today’s Gen Z youth.
3. What Are Some Common Challenges Teens Face That Music Coaching Can Help Address?
Teens today, especially those born into the Gen Z era, face a range of unique challenges, from anxiety and stress to issues related to technology, social media, and even climate change. Keep in mind: they were all in isolation for at least a year smack bang in the middle of their formative years due to the pandemic. In fact, in July of 2020; the World Health Organization had guesstimated it would take the average adult [*ahem* with their fully developed brain and everything] an average of ten years to fully recover from the after effects of the pandemic.
That was only 5 months in.
The pandemic rendered many states across the US unable to go into the office and work until at least May and June of 2021 - almost another six months after that study was released. As such: here are some of the key issues I often address through music coaching:
Anxiety and Stress: Growing up in a fast-paced, hyperconnected world, many teens experience stress and anxiety at a young age. Music provides an outlet to release that built-up tension, offering a way for young adults to process their feelings in a healthy way.
Depression and Emotional Isolation: The pressures of popular culture, social media, and school can sometimes make teens feel disconnected or misunderstood. Writing songs about their experiences helps them feel heard and less alone, even if only they listen to it at first.
Low Self-Esteem and Confidence Issues: Young women and men alike often struggle with self-image and confidence. Through songwriting and vocal coaching, teens can find their voices—both literally and figuratively—and learn to express themselves with confidence.
Communication Barriers: Technology has changed how younger generations communicate. Sometimes, it’s hard for Gen Z teens to express their feelings directly. Songwriting can bridge this gap, helping them organize their thoughts and share their emotions more effectively.
Trauma and Grief: Many young people carry the weight of personal trauma or loss. Music allows them to process these difficult emotions and find healing, turning their struggles into art and building resilience along the way.
4. How Do You Tailor Your Coaching Sessions to Meet Teens’ Individual Needs?
Every human is unique, and Gen Z is no different in needing a personalized approach that honors their individuality. I start by listening to their needs, creating a safe space where they can express themselves freely. Here’s how I do it:
Start by Listening: Teens today are exposed to constant noise, from social media to school pressures. I make sure to listen to what they’re feeling, helping me better support their needs.
Create a Safe Space: Growing up in an era of constant comparison on platforms like YouTube and Instagram, it’s vital for teens to have a space where they don’t feel judged. Whether through songwriting, singing, or talking, I ensure they can be themselves.
Adapt to Their Comfort Level: Whether they’re shy or eager to dive in, I meet them where they are, letting them set the pace. "Student Centered Learning" is imperative for a teenager's development.
Empower Through Expression: Writing lyrics, singing, and creating music are ways for teens to process emotions without feeling overwhelmed.
Focus on Growth: My goal is to help Gen Z teens build confidence and resilience, equipping them with tools they can use beyond our sessions.
5. What Role Do Singing and Songwriting Play in Your Coaching Process?
Singing and songwriting are at the heart of my approach because they offer a unique way for teens to connect with their emotions, express themselves, and grow. Here’s why:
Emotional Expression: For teens who struggle to find the words, writing lyrics helps them articulate complex emotions, using "creative freedom" to allow them to be even more authentic.
Building Confidence: Singing helps teens discover their voice, fostering confidence and self-esteem.
Creating a Safe Outlet: Music offers a structured way to explore emotions, providing a creative outlet that feels safe.
Promoting Healing and Growth: Whether writing about joy or pain, songwriting helps teens make sense of their experiences, leading to emotional healing.
Encouraging Creativity: Songwriting encourages creative thinking and problem-solving, skills that can benefit young people in all areas of their lives.
6. How Do You Stay Informed on Music Therapy to Better Help Teens?
Even though I’m not a therapist, I strive to stay informed on the latest research in music therapy and mental health to provide the best support possible. Here’s how:
Watching TEDx Talks and Educational Videos: Platforms like TEDx offer valuable insights from experts that can inform my coaching.
Attending Seminars and Workshops: I regularly attend events focused on mental health, youth empowerment, and music therapy, allowing me to learn directly from specialists.
Online Research and Reading: Staying up-to-date with journals, articles, and books on music therapy, Gen Z, and mental health trends helps me adapt my practices.
Speaking with Other Specialists: Conversations with therapists, counselors, and other professionals help me align my coaching with best practices and new trends, just like I have done in both seasons one and two of my podcast: "Reconnect with your Teenager"
7. Describe a Typical Coaching Session
My sessions with teens are flexible, personalized, and focused on the individual. Here’s what they look like:
Music as a Tool for Expression: Teens write songs, sing, talk with me about the music they're listening to that resonates with them. This helps them open up and process their emotions, develop self-awareness, and find their voice.
Conversation and Connection: We talk about whatever’s on their mind, creating a relaxed space for honest communication.
Student-Centered Approach: Teens set the pace, and I guide them based on their interests, goals, and energy.
Adaptability and Empathy: Every session is a chance to meet teens where they are and provide the support they need.
8. What Advice Would You Give Teens Who Can’t Afford Therapy?
Not everyone has access to professional help, but there are still ways for teens to seek support:
Express Through Creative Outlets: Writing, drawing, playing an instrument, or other creative activities can be therapeutic.
Journaling: A safe way to explore emotions privately.
Talk to Someone You Trust: Connecting with a friend, family member, or teacher can help alleviate feelings of isolation.
Online Resources: Mental health apps, support groups, and other online resources offer accessible guidance.
Practice Mindfulness and Physical Activity: Simple activities like breathing exercises or walking can help manage stress and anxiety.
9. What Type of Results Do You See from Your Sessions?
The outcomes from my coaching sessions vary, but common results include:
Increased Confidence: Teens leave with a stronger sense of self-esteem and a better understanding of their strengths.
Improved Communication Skills: By expressing their thoughts through music, they learn to articulate their feelings more clearly.
Emotional Resilience: Music helps teens cope with stress and develop a growth mindset.
Greater Self-Awareness: Songwriting encourages self-reflection, helping teens understand themselves better.
Creative Growth: Teens develop skills that extend beyond music, learning to approach life’s challenges with creativity and adaptability.
Final Thoughts: Why Teens Are Interested in Songwriting Coaching
These questions show that today’s Gen Z teens are looking for new ways to express themselves, navigate stress, and build resilience. Growing up in a digital world, they’re facing pressures previous generations couldn’t have imagined. Through music coaching, they’re finding their voices and learning to communicate their emotions in a safe, supportive environment.
If your teenager is struggling with anxiety, self-esteem, or just needs a creative outlet, consider how music coaching can make a difference. I’m passionate about helping teens discover their voices, and I’m here to provide support. Let’s talk about how we can empower your teen through the art of songwriting.
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