Music connects people.
We've known this for a long time. Whether people are creating or listening to music; music brings people together. That's why it's often been said that "music is the language of the soul". You don't need to hail from the same country, share the same color of skin or the same culture, or even speak the same language in order to enjoy listening to the same music together.
There are so many examples of non-English speaking musicians that have made impacts and fans across the world: simply because their music speaks to the soul: not to the native tongue. Just look at artists like Rammstein, Shakira, Selena, Wyclef Jean and Sepultura as examples of non-English speaking bands and artists whose music has a hugely diverse fanbase.
Music is a universal language that transcends all boundaries, opening up new possibilities for the human spirit.
The power of music to both bring people together and increase feelings of connection and belonging between different communities is what makes music such an incredible force in our lives as global citizens - even when we don't understand each other's languages or beliefs!
Stimulate memories, and allow us to feel, reflect and grow from previous experiences ["I remember this song from that time that I did that silly thing.... I'll never repeat that mistake again."]
Remind us to connect with friends or family members ["this was the song that my best friend and I used to sing all the time... I should call them".]
Help us remember the lives of those we've lost ["this was the song I sang at my Father's funeral"]
Celebrate events ["this was my wedding song"]
Reignite relationships ["we were in the middle of a fight, but then our song came on the radio, and we decided to forgive each other"]
and so much more
Simply put: music is powerful. But it's even more so when you recognize the effectiveness of music as a tool when it comes to social bonding, and its role in improving a strong sense of compassion and empathy in those who really allow themselves to be part of the music.
Especially for our teenagers.
Let's be real: the ability to bond, show compassion, and demonstrate empathy are three areas integral to the healthy development and growth of our young people - especially with the social and political climate of the past several years having been so tumultuous.
Studies show that music plays an integral role in facilitating our way back to mental-, emotional-, and social health, however.
Berkeley College of Music studies suggest that "music directly impacts oxytocin levels, which, in turn, affect our ability to trust and act generously toward others—factors that increase our social connection"
The Montessori educational framework celebrates the fact that "music facilitates our personal growth in compassion in several ways. First, Music is a shared language and means of expression; it erases barriers and divisions, bringing unity and inspiring love. Second, music teaches collaboration and generosity; it challenges students to be compassionate by helping their peers achieve their fullest potential. Third, music teaches patience and compassion in the act of learning itself".
Studies from the National Library of Medicine suggest that musical training "promotes the development and maintenance of empathy and social understanding. Since empathy is crucial for well-being and indispensable in social life, it is necessary to develop strategies to improve empathy and prosocial behaviors".
Listening to music can do so much for our emotional and mental health. But what if your teenager didn't just listen to music, but started performing music too? No, they don't have to be the next Jimmy Barnes or Erykah Badu... but gifting your kid with the opportunity to perform music for their friends, family or even a school concert? Equipping your teenager with the tools and ability to create their own music?
By quite literally giving your young person the pen, and allowing them to rewrite the narrative behind what music they're choosing to listen to; we can start to see some really powerful shifts in the emotional and mental states of our teenagers. Imagine a rewritten version of that song you don't like [shout out to Ava Max and her song "Not Your Barbie Girl"]. Or a more empowering original song [written by your kid] in response to a song that doesn't have the most positive messaging - or messaging that they agree with [Woodie Guthrie's "This Land is Your Land", for example, was written in response to God Bless America, as - it is said - Woodie was "irritated by the capitalist ideals of a country that seemed to relish economic disparity".] The options that rewriting or writing the narrative can offer your teenager are endless. Imagine your teenager in concert: feeling inspired by an artist, but performing music with their own unique spin that allows them the opportunity to revel in their own authentic power and identity.
The negative messages found in music can be a huge influence on young people, but there is an opportunity for them to turn these experiences into something positive. We need only equip our youth with the tools needed so that they might handle their emotions more effectively and productively when faced adversity or difficulties along life's journey
This is where bonding, compassion and empathy most powerfully come together... through the art of music and songwriting.
And suddenly: life as we once knew it was no longer possible. Lack of social contact meant that life became lonely, isolated and often just emotionally draining.
But music brings people together.
Performing and singing music gives the performer [your teenager] the opportunity to express themselves, to be seen, validated, revered, celebrated, and listened to. Whether they sing, play an instrument, or dance: music [and movement] increases levels of oxytocin [a key hormone to both empathy and trust], increases dopamine [a happy chemical that our body creates as part of a reward system], and reduces cortisol [our stress hormone].
Research suggests that listening to music also increases our levels of oxytocin [among other health benefits], but - again - you need to be mindful of the songs your teenager is listening to. There is a huge difference between the lyrical content behind Adele's songs, and the songs of Megan the Stallion. [Not to say that I don't respect the career of MTS - young humans just don't necessarily have the ability to be as constructive about what they listen to].
Of course, when neighbors, peers and families come together and enjoy music together: the sense of connection and belonging that people feel is only heightened. Relationships can flourish with something as simple as a song. Groups celebrate with song: through performing music, or attending concerts together. Cultures communicate and pass down history through art and song. Music allows us to feel, and move through pain. Music makes community.
All in all: the support that music brings to all facets of emotional health - namely our ability to connect, empathize and show compassion - is incredibly positive, which is exactly what we need right now - for all humans, but especially teenagers.
Teenagers need strategies and tools to build connection with their peers, find their community, and to identify and release pain. Teenagers need methods to express their feelings, and make sense of the world around them.
And it can start from something as seemingly simple as a song. Their song.
If you'd like to find out more about how to facilitate their songwriting journey, schedule a call with me here, and get a free e-copy of my book: RECONNECT WITH YOUR TEENAGER - A Parent's Guide to Helping Your Stressed or Anxious Kid with the Art of Songwriting.